Sorry, Don’t be Sorry

Man doing a handstand on the beach.

It is not selfish to want more while hardly anything is being given in return. Don’t be sorry.

If you are like most people, you often find yourself feeling guilty and constantly sorry for certain things you do (or don’t do) and choices and decisions you make (which have absolutely nothing to do with anyone else). Deep inside you know you shouldn’t be feeling sorry, let alone guilty, but then again you can’t help it when you look at people around you and compare your life to theirs…and imagine that your life could be better. Allow me to rudely interrupt you—sorry, don’t be sorry!

For being different

Most people will want to punish you for being different. In a world where everyone wants to have an opinion about how everyone else should look, live or behave, it is hard not to feel alienated for being different in one way or the other. You might want to remind yourself that you will never be slim enough or fair enough for those that imagine beauty to be all about a slim body and fair complexion; your beliefs will never be right enough for people who hold different beliefs; and your life choices will never be good enough for the majority that chooses differently than you. If it helps, you are unique, not different.

If anything, we should feel sorry for the people who want us to feel bad about ourselves, because they are the ones struggling for approval. In middle school, bullies tortured other kids because they thought it would make people like them more. 

Ariana Grande

For taking charge of your life

Feeling sorry because you chose a different career path than your parents intended for you? Don’t be sorry. At loggerheads with your husband for wanting to be more than a housewife? Honey, don’t be sorry. Feeling sorry for remaining in a pathetic job or an abusive relationship? What are you waiting for? Leave; don’t be sorry. Take charge of your life anyway.

For failing

Do you constantly feel like you are being tested? Like you constantly have to succeed in everything you do? You know—ace your studies, be the best employee, grow your business idea into an empire on your first attempt, be the best dad ever, etc. Yea, I do too. And guess what? I fail too. Maybe more than you. But I have learned to never let anything go to my head; success and failure alike. Most importantly, I have learned to never take failure too seriously. Allowing yourself to learn from the failure is a big success in itself.

For wanting more

Feeling like you could achieve so much more in a different work environment? Don’t be sorry for your employer. Feeling trapped in a toxic relationship? Don’t be sorry for wanting to be treated better. Is your business partner pulling you down? Stop being sorry and demand for better performance or be on your way. It is not selfish to want or demand more while hardly anything is being given in return. Don’t be sorry.

For making a mistake

Wait, what did you just read?

Yes, don’t just say “sorry” for making a mistake. Go the extra mile and make it right. If it can be fixed, fix it. If it can’t be fixed, show remorse. Don’t be the next person who abuses the word “sorry”.

And as Joyce Meyer says,

Feeling sorry for ourselves is the most useless waste of energy on the planet. It does absolutely no good. We can’t let our circumstances or what others do or don’t do control us. We can decide to be happy regardless. 

Joyce Meyer

Sorry, don’t be sorry!

Robert Kamaru

Robert is a freelance writer, blogger and e-preneur. He is interested in all issues mental health, lifestyle and online business.

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2 Responses

  1. Jackson says:

    This is a good read, Rob.

    In a world that we are constantly reminded to conform and say sorry for being different; it is nice to get a pat on the back and be told that we are doing just fine.
    I think it’s okay to be different, to be comfortable within our skins and not say sorry about it. The world will have to adjust to us and not the other way round.

    • Robert Kamaru says:

      Absolutely Jackson! 🙂 Always do you. If anyone doesn’t like it, that’s their burden to bear. Not yours.